How do you turn relationship landmines into GOLD Mines?
You know how in conversations with our partner its like walking on a minefield? And, you don’t know when you are going to lose a limb!
What if you could learn to release the trigger so that there are no casualties, so that you can discover the treasure inside the mine?
You know how it is, when couples have been together for a while, there are just some topics, some areas, that even if you want a change; you learn to just not ever go there.
Eventually, you will just distance yourself from the person that you love rather than push to get what you really want from your partner because it’s just to risky. It just doesn’t seem worth it.
I can help!
I'm Melody Brooke, and I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist. I see couples just like you every day, and I can help.
My office is located at 801 E. Campbell Rd. Suite 510, Richardson, Texas. You can reach me personally at 469-223-7153, or vial email
Do any of these describe you?
You want more intimacy but have no way to bridge the distance between you.
There is tension between you and you find yourself pushing and pulling at each other and it feels more like war than love.
Your partner's anger overwhelms you and you don't know how to deal with it
You want to feel connected again but just don’t understand how you got this far apart.
You still love your partner but you don’t know how to regain that feeling of being close.
Start your transformation today.
Call me at 469-223-7153 - I can help!
KEYS to Staying In LOVE
- Key number one: Commit to owning responsibility for the quality of your connection. To maintain that magical feeling of love and special-ness in a relationship we have to be willing to take 150% ownership of the quality of the connection in our relationships.
- Key number two: Stop blaming your partner for what is not working. You are as much of the problem as they are; no matter how it may look to you at the moment.
- Key number three: No matter how angry and hurt you are; remember that this person is not your enemy. In the middle of a conflict it sure can feel that way. It can seem that they are attacking you and you are the victim. Instead, breathe deeply. Start thinking about what you love about this person, and what you are grateful for about them.
These simple keys can work for you too.
I know, because they've worked for hundreds of people in situations just like yours!
In spite of how it feels your situation is not hopeless or unique.
I have developed these keys over 18 years of successfully navigating all kinds of situations and conflicts with people from all walks of life.
Why “Learning to Communicate” Doesn’t Work And What To Do Instead…
Communication is not really the problem. We can’t NOT communicate! We are constantly communicating.
Talking more and more about the things we THINK are the problem does not get at the root of what is going on between you.
One couple I worked with thought that if they just “communicated better” about their lack of sex life they would come to an agreement and things would work out. If only that were true! The problems between partners are NEVER what it looks like on the surface! Continually talking about “the problem” when that is not REALLY the problem only makes things worse.
Here's How I Can Help You Get and Stay Connected with Your Partner Starting Right Now
- When people are in dire circumstances, like poverty, they keep moving, keep hoping the next place will be better. This is what happens when our relationships are in poverty; we give up and move on, hoping it will be better next time. Sometimes we just give up and don’t even try again. Ever known people like that?
Developing an emotionally wealthy relationship requires walking through the minefields. Not all of us are brave enough to do it, that’s what the divorce rate is so high.
And, if you don’t know how to do it, who can blame you?
But once you discover how each trigger contains important, valuable, and precious pieces of information about your partner that changes everything. These parts of your partner are the very things that drew you to them in the first place, but they have been hiding behind layers of dynamite. Fearing the explosions, you have tiptoed around trying not to set off the blast only to lose your partner and your love in the process.
Once you discover how to defuse the charge and hold the treasure in your hands, providing the safety and nurturing that part needs to come into the light of day, you’ll discover the fun of playing with the person you fell in love with so long ago.
That’s the payoff for taking the risk of walking through the minefield
The next step is up to you.
You can have a loving, lasting, deep connection with your partner.
Marriage advice is cheap, and comes in all forms. But marriage help comes from transforming how you experience yourself and your partner. Help for couples is not won by learning communication techniques, marriage advice is no more than that. Transformation of the context is what makes for a healthy, lasting marriage.
Remember, whatever you do right now you will be making a choice about the quality of relationship – from now on!
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