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Of course you want a relationship that lasts!
But finding the right person is really less than half of what it takes to stay connected with someone.
The truth is, doesn’t matter how excited you are about your partner if you can’t stay on the same wavelength and keep a connection over time.
In working with couples and families over the past 18 years I have seen clearly that being in love, or even just loving someone, isn’t enough to keep the relationship going.
Keep reading and I will tell you exactly what you need to know to stay connected and close even through hardships and extreme conflict.
There are five strategies people use to maintain connection that NEVER work:
- Strategy number one: “What they don’t know won’t hurt them”. We think that if we keep our partner from knowing the things that will upset them, and then we’ll get along.
- Strategy number two: “Yes dear, whatever you want”. We think that if we give in to whatever our partner wants then they will be happy with us and we will get along.
- Strategy number three: “We just need to spend more time together”. This strategy implies that more time together will alone fix the problems.
- Strategy number four: “I want you to understand why I am right”. This strategy can look like we are trying to communicate but is really about feeling that if we could convince our partner that we are right then they will go along with us.
- Strategy number five: “We just need to communicate better”. Literature and many therapies suggest “improved communication” is the fix for the problems in a relationship.
I have discovered the keys to unlocking our ability to connect!
There is tension between you and you find yourself pushing and pulling at each other and it feels more like war than love.
You want to feel connected again but just don’t understand how you got this far apart.
You still love your partner but you don’t know how to regain that feeling of being close.
- Key number one: Commit to owning responsibility for the quality of your connection. To maintain that magical feeling of love and special-ness in a relationship we have to be willing to take 150% ownership of the quality of the connection in our relationships.
- Key number two: Stop blaming your partner for what is not working. You are as much of the problem as they are; no matter how it may look to you at the moment.
- Key number three: No matter how angry and hurt you are; remember that this person is not your enemy. In the middle of a conflict it sure can feel that way. It can seem that they are attacking you and you are the victim. Instead, breathe deeply. Start thinking about what you love about this person, and what you are grateful for about them.
These simple keys can work for you too.
I know, because they've worked for hundreds of people in situations just like yours!
In spite of how it feels your situation is not hopeless or unique.
I have developed these keys over 18 years of successfully navigating all kinds of situations and conflicts with people from all walks of life.
Why “Learning to Communicate” Doesn’t Work And What To Do Instead…
Communication is not really the problem. We can’t NOT communicate! We are constantly communicating.
Talking more and more about the things we THINK are the problem does not get at the root of what is going on between you.
One couple I worked with thought that if they just “communicated better” about their lack of sex life they would come to an agreement and things would work out. If only that were true! The problems between partners are NEVER what it looks like on the surface! Continually talking about “the problem” when that is not REALLY the problem only makes things worse.
Here's How I Can Help You Get and Stay Connected with Your Partner Starting Right Now.
I have written a book called “The Cycles of the Heart: A way out of the egocentrism of everyday life”. Cycles of the Heart uncovers the hidden script that automatically guides our lives, and provides us a conscious map for escaping the drama of struggling for power in our relationships. From birth we are programmed by nature and culture to live in a world of pain and drama. Unlike the many self-help books available in stores today, Cycles of the Heart not only identifies the traps we are bound to from childhood, it also provides you a clear map for navigating out of the pain. Cycles of the Heart allows you to identify your own part in your relatinship difficuties and provides specific tools for you to become an empowered partner.
Here are some of the things you will discover that will transform how you relate to your partner (and to yourself):
- Three Roles we all play that you're probably playing right now and why the only outcome of them is pain.
- Three opposite and empowering positions to take which transform how you relate to yourself and others.
- What triggers conflict and how to have healthy conflict that actually brings you closer to your partner!
- What compassion really is and how to actually use it in your relationship
- How your survival strategies impact every aspect of your relationship
- How your childhood impacts your relationship whether you are aware of it or not.
- Actions you can take to change the quality of your relationship immediately.
Now, I want you to understand. I have a Masters degree in psychology and have been in private practice for over 18 years. I specialize in helping people develop real connection in their relationships.
In nearly two decades of practice, I'm proud to say I've helped hundreds of people transform their relationships –no matter how hopeless it seemed.
The next step is up to you.
You can have a loving, lasting, deep connection with your partner.
Remember, whatever you do right now you will be making a choice about the quality of relationship – from now on!
"Cycles of the Heart" will give you the specific strategies you need to create the kind of relationship you want without your having to make the same mistakes you have made in the past, repeating the same patterns over and over again.
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